May 20, 2018

The importance of Naming!

All week I have been posting about the importance of naming. Naming is an active process. It requires action!
Naming our experiences really helps us! But often we do this in a binary way. There are those experiences that we name as negative and those that we name as positive. However what we experience as blessings can be curses and vice versa! Experiences I know are there to teach us and help us grow! At the time when we are struggling with an experience and in the midst of the experience, we don’t always understand the lesson!

The experience can be a shock! In our day and era, most of us when we have problems, we go onto the internet to look for solutions. Sometimes we even find what seems to be the solution!
The internet is a mass of solutions! Some of us are aware of our problems but some of us are totally unaware!

I want to go back a step and say firmly and clearly to name the issue or problem that is troubling us or holding us back is really the key! The key to change!

And that naming starts when we start asking questions! I have found in working with young people and their families in crisis for the last 27 years that the questions are more important than answers!

Questions like what do I want? Where am I going? Do I really want to be doing this in five years time? What do I love doing? What makes my heart sing? Why am I hurting? How did I end up here? Why do I do this? Who can help me? How do I help myself? When did I become like this?

I could go on with the questions but I am sure you get the gist. These questions result in naming what is that we want, what we are struggling with and help us to start a journey which will inevitably be uncomfortable but invariably leads to growth.

This week I introduced you to that journey by provoking you to question names and naming. From tomorrow and in the next week, I will be talking about accepting and acceptance on this blog and on my Facebook Busuness Page Taniya Hussain Coaching and Consultancy Services. I invite you to walk with me as I take this journey endeavouring to understand acceptance and accepting. I hope you find it just as enlightening as naming!

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Having qualified as a Social Worker in July 1991 from Coventry University, it has been over two decades that I have been on the front line working with children and young people who are traumatized and on the margins of society. Although I studied Psycho-dynamic counselling for two years at Goldsmiths College (1991-1993), I decided to integrate Psycho-dynamic theories and skills into my Social work practice and flirt with and immerse myself in studying Islam as well as interfaith dialogue and friendships. For the last 20 years, I have been working in a multi-disciplinary Youth Offending Team in South London, comprised of Professional colleagues from different faiths and cultural backgrounds trying to support young people in the criminal justice system. I am married and mother to three sons, and juggle Social Work and interfaith dialogue with my writing, studying and the needs of home and family.


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