June 3, 2018

Claiming Part Two

Claiming is a process! I know that to heal from Trauma or to cope with adversity, claiming yourself from the conflict, confusion or chaos in your life is so necessary.

Claiming your power is an inside job ANONYMOUS

And I have found in the dark moments, months or years in my life that when I claimed my power, I found my gifts, talents, strengths, beauty and light within myself too.

Paradoxically at the same time I had to, embrace the weaknesses and vulnerabilities, crap, ugliness, incompentencies and darkness within myself too.

The human spirit houses both light and darkness and to deny the latter, I found was always my undoing. Denying my darkness meant I stopped taking responsibility for my life and continued blaming others for my life choices and this has ruined my relationships with others.

Human beings experience the spectrum of human emotion!The human spirit embodies light as well as darkness! The will to do good as well as evil!

As a Trauma Recovery Coach, I have witnessed multiple times what occurs to the human spirit when it experiences trauma; the human spirit ends up fracturing; the mind, soul and body split from each other!

I know when you have experienced Trauma in your own life or you are surrounded by Trauma due to the Profession you have chosen, this fracturing of the Human Spirit occurs consciously or unconsciously.

Disassociation is an example of this fracturing. I know in my life there have been so many times, when I have difficulty feeling rage, shame or bitterness. I have though discovered that this rage is stored deep within my body and manifests itself as illnesses. The rage needs to be expressed but because I no longer recognise as it rage, it goes unchecked only to release itself as a tsunami causing extreme destruction. The destruction has invariably been leashed mostly towards myself, but at times, it has been unleashed against my husband and against my sons! My relationships with all of them remain intact but words hurt and words can never be taken back and I still regret speaking them.

Am I talking too generally here?

Let me more specific and get to the point. If you are reading this and like me, you know you entered the Caring Profession and decided to be a Doctor, Social Worker, Nurse, Youth worker, Teacher or Psychologist and the list goes on, for the reason that its a vocation, your soul’s calling then these words are for you . If you are reading this and like me, have over the years, witnessed so much trauma in your patients and your clients lives and you recognise that the Trauma is taking a toll on you and your relationships, then please read on. If you recognise that the trauma is claiming your life, be patient with me and tell me if this is you!

You find it difficult to relax on most days.

You are arguing with your partner and you just do not know why!

Your marriage or relationship has not been the same for some years.

You feel distant from your Partner!

You find you start a project at home but can never see it all the way through and that leaves you unhappy with yourself!

Perhaps then these are signs that you need some clarity in your life in order to discover what do you really want in your life? Perhaps you want to discover what is your life’s purpose? Perhaps you need some clarity in how you can improve the relationships in your life?

If any of the above is the case, I would urge you to schedule a clarity call with me by using the link below!


I know this claiming and to attain or affirm yourself is an uncomfortable process. However I know when I started travelling down a road I had never travelled nine months ago; it has lead me to discover my life’s purpose of being a Trauma Recovery Coach. In reaching out to people like you. I also am pursuing my dream of being a Writer

Both activities for me are a labour of love. I also know that I would not be doing these if I had not scheduled a Clarity Call with a Coach in 2017.

Robert Frost writes in his poem

The Road not taken:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-

I took the one less travelled by,

And that has made all the difference.

I know when I decided to claim myself from the chaos, confusion and conflict around me and look within, it took a leap of faith! Coaching has made all the difference in my life and I want it to make a difference in your life.

Claiming has meant that I am no longer angry at those around me for my life choices.

Claiming has meant that I take responsibility for my life choices!

Claiming has meant that I finish things I start and feel more fulfilled with my life, rather than pulled in so many directions and unfulfilled.

Claiming has meant that I am not having arguments with my husband.

Claiming has meant that I am more conscious of the toll witnessing Trauma in my job as a Social Worker takes on me. Therefore I invest in self care more and I no longer feel guilty about it.

Claiming has meant that my health is better, my blood pressure is under control and I have lost weight.

Claiming has meant that I am able to relax and enjoy the pleasures of life.

If you want to know how Claiming helped me then follow me on WordPress or on my Facebook Page Taniya Hussain Coaching and Consultancy Services!



Having qualified as a Social Worker in July 1991 from Coventry University, it has been over two decades that I have been on the front line working with children and young people who are traumatized and on the margins of society. Although I studied Psycho-dynamic counselling for two years at Goldsmiths College (1991-1993), I decided to integrate Psycho-dynamic theories and skills into my Social work practice and flirt with and immerse myself in studying Islam as well as interfaith dialogue and friendships. For the last 20 years, I have been working in a multi-disciplinary Youth Offending Team in South London, comprised of Professional colleagues from different faiths and cultural backgrounds trying to support young people in the criminal justice system. I am married and mother to three sons, and juggle Social Work and interfaith dialogue with my writing, studying and the needs of home and family.


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