June 17, 2018


Do you want to learn how to Simplify, Slow Down and Self-Care?

My mantra for 2018 is to slow down, simplify and self-care. Half way through the year, I am discovering the more I create space for myself rather than watching TV that I have seen before or pushing myself to be the perfect parent (which is impossible) the more I am able to slow down, simplify my life and create a pattern of self-care.

Are you tired of just juggling responsibilities?

Creating space for myself is something I have always struggled with. Juggling a Social Work career with three sons for the last 21 years and having an Online Business as a Trauma Recovery Coach, you are probably thinking, it is not surprising.

However creating space for myself is essential as it enables me to think and feel. Each time I have done it, whether it is by a) going to the hairdressers to have my hair done and not taking my mobile phone and spending two hours reading magazines or b) just chatting to family and friends or c) having a cup of tea and cake by myself in a cafe or d) taking half an hour to enjoy the roses on a summer’s day; these all have actually helped me slow down.

These measures have actually increased my energy levels. They have lead to me feeling like a human being rather than a human doing and reminded me why I do what I do. Coaching for me is a labour of love. I know if I do not create any spaces for myself, I would end up feeling resentful and not be able to serve my Clients effectively.

Each time I have created space for myself, I have offered myself a life-line. I have saved myself from dying inside. I know if you are a Professional like me or even a Volunteer who supports people who have been traumatised, you know exactly what I am saying and know I am not exaggerating and being over dramatic.

Holding and supporting people who are being traumatised is no easy task. It can make you lose the will to live at worst or dampen the pleasures of living, at best.

To be or not to be is that the question you have been asking yourself?

Creating space for yourself is essential in this day and age where there is so little opportunity to just be. You are tied to your phone and busy reacting to Social Media! To just be has become a guilty pleasure.

To be, just be, by just watching the world go by as you sit in a cafe sipping tea is a rare treat. I know you only indulge in this on holiday. However for me creating space for myself, has resulted in time being created for projects I put off or conversely I really want to do.

Do you want to transform your life?

As my life seems to be growing busier and busier and more fast paced, I know in these last six months, the more space I have created for myself, the more productive I have become. I would thoroughly recommend creating space for yourself in whatever way suits you. All I know is by creating space, it creates new patterns in your brain and this results in new habits in your behaviour and this transforms your lifestyle. Creating space for yourself elicits change and transforms your relationship with yourself and others. I know most of my relationships have transformed to be more honest, open and loving. I am no longer afraid to be vulnerable and am no longer trying to be good enough.

Schedule Your Clarity Call Now!

Online Coaching is one way of creating space for yourself to explore your goals and dreams. If you are interested in learning how to create spaces for yourself, then schedule a clarity call with me.




Having qualified as a Social Worker in July 1991 from Coventry University, it has been over two decades that I have been on the front line working with children and young people who are traumatized and on the margins of society. Although I studied Psycho-dynamic counselling for two years at Goldsmiths College (1991-1993), I decided to integrate Psycho-dynamic theories and skills into my Social work practice and flirt with and immerse myself in studying Islam as well as interfaith dialogue and friendships. For the last 20 years, I have been working in a multi-disciplinary Youth Offending Team in South London, comprised of Professional colleagues from different faiths and cultural backgrounds trying to support young people in the criminal justice system. I am married and mother to three sons, and juggle Social Work and interfaith dialogue with my writing, studying and the needs of home and family.


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