November 4, 2018

Being Part Three. Finding your Why!

A wise woman that I know and and deeply love, once said to me:

It is the questions that you ask which are more important than the answers!

Indeed about a year ago, I started asking the question:

What do I want?

This one question lead me to develop my purpose. People often talk about finding your purpose but I instinctively know you never lose your purpose, it is buried deep within you. Your purpose is an intrinsic part of your being. However I know most of us are never taught how to develop it. Indeed developing your purpose, I have discovered leads you to a more authentic way of being.

This way of being, I never imagined but has lead me to experience sustained joy in my life. This joy is not momentary or temporary but sustained.

Strange I know, because the question what do I want, sounds selfish, egotistical even. I can hear some of you reading this feeling disgusted. How dare I ask what I want when the vast majority of people do not have what they need! It even sounds greedy.

However the one question made me wipe the fog in front of me and provided me with a clarity of vision.

Not only vision but I can hear, feel, smell, taste and touch the way I want to be in the future, I know the past cannot be changed though and so I am learning to let go of the previous way I was and the unhealthy ways of being and the ways of being that no longer serve me. This letting go is not easy but fundamental and really starts by forgiving myself.

Can you forgive yourself?

Can you allow yourself to ask what do you really want?

This one question has provided me with direction for the destination I am heading for.

And when I let myself experience the destination and experience the future as the present, that is sheer heaven.

But I could never experience it if I never asked:

What is it that I really want?

This question unravelled so many different other questions. It is a question most people are afraid to ask. Most of us ask: What do I want to do? What do others expect of me? Who should I be?

I know these shoulds lead to feeling trapped and feeling obligated, guilt and misery. But all these shoulds and feelings are a product and culmination of your unhealthy ways of being arising from your childhood, your schooling and the society you grew up in.

I know you have you spent most of your life just doing, giving to others and hardly ever giving to yourself. Maybe for some time you also feel you do not have ANYMORE to give. You feel the fire that was within you all these years to serve, has burnt out.

That is why I feel it is exciting and sheer serependity that you are reading this right now.

There is a fire within me that I always have possessed and that is, to warm tired and weary souls. But now the fire is raging much more and I know it will not burn out because I feed and replenish myself and give to myself. That is what I started doing when I asked that question what do I really want and I have been doing this ever since.

I want you to feel that fire again. I am on a mission to beat burn out. I have found my why and I invite you to find your why by signing up to the Interview Series I have been working on for the past few months.

The series is called Beat Burn Out. I have brought together today’s top Coaches, Authors, Entrepreneurs and Mentors to share with you their journey of how they find their why and how they made the transition from being a human doing to becoming a human being. You do not need to be a Social Worker or Health Care Professional to benefit from it, just a person who has spent the majority of your life giving to others and hardly giving to yourself.

You can sign up at

The best part about the Interview Series is that it is completely free.

I would love you to find your why and experience the joy I am feeling in my life.

Join me at

Find your why!

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Taniya Hussain qualified as a Social Worker in 1991 from Coventry University in England. She has been working on the front lines, consistently holding space for individuals and families for three decades especially, children and young people on the margins of society. Taniya studied Psycho-dynamic counselling from 1991 to 1993 at Goldsmiths College in London. Taniya met Sheikha Halima Krausen in 1992 and has been studying Islam with her ever since especially Mystical Islam, Tassawuf (Sufism) and walks on the Chisti path. Taniya really started using the power of Jungian Pyschology and Mystical Islam when she started her Online Coaching and Consultancy Business in 2018 and discovered she was a powerful healer. When she discovered Shadow Alchemy in 2019, she started developing this modality into Muslim Alchemy in 2020. She now brands herself as the Muslim Alchemist because she is constantly integrating her knowledge of the Quran and Bible with her vast Social Work experience and her extensive ability of applying Psycho-dynamic, therapeutic techniques to organisational settings, team dynamics and when working with individuals and groups. This has both Online and Offline. Taniya uses skillfully her understanding of the Shadow, that Jung constantly talked about and her Mystical Training plus her experience in inter-faith dialogue since 2003, to help individuals and groups become conscious of what they previously were unconscious of leading to rapid success in their Business, Health and Relationships. Taniya has a great skill in being able to see the blind spots in others and in untanging energetic knots (a term she uses for Shadow) to promote healing from mental and physical disease. She uses her vast expertise and skills to help her Online Clients to get rid of decades of anxiety causing insomnia, depression and suicidal thoughts and marital problems. Clients usually are healed in a short amount of time never needing to invest in Therapy again. She really is the Muslim Alchemist as she turns the shitty experience of clients into golden experiences where they manifest upgraded, wealth, health and relationships all at the same time. Taniya got married in 1995 and has three sons born in 1996, 2001 and 2003 and lives in Surrey, England and when she is not developing Muslim Alchemy, she loves to spend time with her family and write fiction stories, songs and poems. She speaks fluent English and Urdu and basic German and French and is learning Arabic and Hebrew.

1 Comment

  1. garryturnermcipd

    Super blog this Tainya, resonates a lot for me.



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