November 16, 2019

An Old Welcome where the writer was hiding behind the Coach



This blog was actually a home page written earlier in Summer 2019. My very first attempt at writing a Home Page. I wanted to publish it today to show you how much I am growing and you will see the contrast to the current home page.

Business is a work in progress and constantly evolving.

Before I would have been embarrassed to even publish it as a separate blog.

Not now it just shows my journey from always wanting to rescue to helping you to help yourself. The previous home page is in quotes so you can clearly see my growth and evolution in these months.


“Congratulations and welcome!

I am so glad you found me!

Yes I know you have been looking for me all your life, haven’t you?

Well let me welcome you into my world! You tired and weary soul.

The journey has been long hasn’t it?

You almost gave up looking for that One that understood.

And now that you feel you found me, you are still cynical and suspicious and at the same time in shock and overjoyed on your discovery.

I get it.

I really do.

You are tired of dipping your toe in water and playing around with the superficialities of personal development.

I know you have invested in one course after another in personal development and not one has really fitted.

They are too basic aren’t they?

Or you discover that they are just another shiny object that lured you in, promising to give you all the answers but gave you very little in value instead.

And even if they did help you grow, you outgrew them very quickly. However you had to stay with the program as you signed up for a year or whatever length the contract was and you hate backing out.

It was painful and the people pleaser in you, the little girl who doesn’t like to fight back, carried on playing small and carried on lying that you were getting something out of it, when you clearly were not.

The Personal Development Industry at times feels really cliched now and you are getting really cynical.

You are an intelligent woman and it just grates you to hear again and again those phrases about limiting beliefs and going beyond your comfort zone and the law of attraction.

Especially when all you are looking for is someone to hold you and heal you and give you some rest and respite.

You want a space away from the glaring light of scrutiny to scream and yell and get familiar with the shadows of your life.

You also want a Coach or Mentor who holds you accountable, challenges you and doesn’t let you rest on your laurels when you need to be fighting with your inner fears and outer battles in life and Business.

After all, most of your life, you have been highly driven and far from comfortable.

Yes you are looking for something more advanced and just don’t have time to play around.

You want someone to just rip off the mask you have been wearing and tell you the blunt and bitter truth, that you got to stop hiding and start fighting.

You want someone to hold your hand while you navigate your way around the blinding light you are experiencing inside of you but also someone that can stomach the darkness of your pain.

You are tired of playing the victim, rescuer or persecuter and wish the Therapists, Coaches and Mentors you have hired would just call you out on the bullshit, you give them.

You want someone to call a spade a spade.

You find the world of personal development nauseating and yet you are addicted to it and want someone to pull you out of the drowning waters.

Because instinctively although you have dipped your toe in the waters of personal development by not immersing yourself in it fully with your whole entire self, there is a part of you deeply hurt who has never found the one that you can dive in with. The one you can fully trust.

You prefer to drown with so many different Mentors, Therapists and Coaches. They all appeal to different parts of you and it is safe for you. You do not mind throwing a whole load of money on them because it keeps you stuck and keeps your true self hidden.

You are exhausted by the fact that most people in your life are threatened by you, this extraordinary persona that you have or are intimidated by your success.

This is because outwardly you are successful either financially or with your Online presence or TV, Stage or Film Roles or even within your family or community with all your endless efforts and endeavours in making this world a better place.

But you know inwardly being famous and rich or having this huge Online following or reputation in the family, community or country is not success.

You just want someone to see the REAL you, the struggling you, the desperate and lonely soul searching for like minded souls and therefore meaning and community and purpose.

You desperately want to love and accept yourself for all your flaws and imperfections but just do not know how.

Because most of your life, whatever you have been doing, you just cannot master it and you feel different from the rest.

There has always been this huge gulf and distance between you and your partner and most of your friends in your life and most of your family.

If any Coach or Mentor could bridge the distance between you and others in your life, you would take your entire self and dive in with that person in learning all they had to impart.

You would invest most of your time and money.

If anyone could help you feel an inward success, you would exchange the outward success in an instant.

You are tired of hearing the key is to love yourself.

They all say that!

But very few give you the tools, tips, strategies and skills on how to do that.

So I am glad you found me as I just don’t say that. Instead I work with you very patiently on how you can love yourself by imparting to you over 30 years of my wisdom as a Social Worker. I also share with you insights that I gained and practical exercises that I used that contributed to intense personal transformations in my own life.

I can if you work with me, change you to feeling radiant, joyous and purposeful most of the time if not all the time.

I will work with you, if you let me, to change your everyday nightmare of feeling an inward failure to feeling that inward success.

You can give up your guilty pleasures and embrace who you truly are, the shadows within you aswell as your intense light.

Just imagine feeling fabulous, fantastic and phenemonal most of the time.

Just imagine not having to fake it to make it.

Wouldn’t you like to lift the cloud over your head that drags you down and start releasing negative energies within you and enhancing all those positive energies?

Wouldn’t you like to really start loving yourself in a sustained way and heal that wounded child within?

She has been neglected for far too long hasn’t she?

If you want to work with me on this healing journey, then why don’t you book a Clarity call by clicking on the link below:

Really it is that easy!

I cannot wait to meet you!

If anything in this blog has really resonated with you and you would like to discuss the subject further with Taniya privately then use this link.





Having qualified as a Social Worker in July 1991 from Coventry University, it has been over two decades that I have been on the front line working with children and young people who are traumatized and on the margins of society. Although I studied Psycho-dynamic counselling for two years at Goldsmiths College (1991-1993), I decided to integrate Psycho-dynamic theories and skills into my Social work practice and flirt with and immerse myself in studying Islam as well as interfaith dialogue and friendships. For the last 20 years, I have been working in a multi-disciplinary Youth Offending Team in South London, comprised of Professional colleagues from different faiths and cultural backgrounds trying to support young people in the criminal justice system. I am married and mother to three sons, and juggle Social Work and interfaith dialogue with my writing, studying and the needs of home and family.