April 12, 2020

Defining who I am and what I do.

It has always been difficult to define who I am and what I do.

I am and do a lot of things.

I am a Writer, a Blogger, a Poet, a Social Worker, Counsellor, Trainer, Coach, Consultant, Teacher, Healer and Intuitive Guide.

I am a Mother, Wife, Daughter and Sister.

I am a friend, frenemy, colleague, collaborator and competitor.

Unapologetically, I am Muslim with a big capital M and a small m.

The one who surrenders, submits and the one who is at peace and the one who is whole and secure with myself.

I have consciously and unconsciously been a Muslim even in my agnostic years which were a few in the late 80s.

I am definitely Spirtual and a Seeker.

Until I found what I am looking for which was always and still is under my nose, inside my heart, mind and soul.

The wealth I carry which we all carry is inside ourselves. But most of us are totally unaware of this Truth constantly looking outside of ourselves for it.

I am not talking about material wealth here. I am talking about spirtual wealth.

And when I talk about surrender and submission, it doesn’t necessarily mean to God. It can mean to circumstance, oneself, the process one is engaged in.

Surrender and Submission, Peace and Security and Safety and Wholeness all flower from the same root.

But they all do not come easily and require the letting go of the egotistical mind.

Submission and Surrender are not intellectual exercises and now being 51 years on this earth, I am realising they are everyday practical exercises.

While I have always been a practical person a practitioner on the front line battling with trauma, distress and adversity in all its forms, working with the poor and the marginalised, it is when I started my Business in 2018 when I understood.

I actually have learnt more about Submission and Surrender as an Entrepreneur.

And that is what I do teach what I am learning everyday.

How to submit to the Unknown, to the process, to surrender to parts of yourself that you are unaware of or who you have buried or who scare you or you have denied.

It is a gradual process which I am patient in accompanying you on this journey.

If you are a woman or a man who come to me seeking solace from distress then I work in a collaborative fashion to secure your becoming at peace with your darkest and deepest fear.

Usually this fear is actually the freedom you need to embrace your wholeness and your uniqueness.

To get to this beautiful place is entirely up to you.

For some it can take three months and for others months and for others years.

There is a characteristic that is shared for those who come to me and who want to work with me, and who flock to listen to what I have to offer.

Yes all of these people are very gifted with intelligence, resilience and are high flyers, having overcome alot of adversity against the odds. They are very self sufficient and are just used to getting on with it. Until they cannot continue.

They have hit a wall when they find me, an impenetrable wall where spirituality, faith, friends, family and the usual addiction work provides mo solace.

Yes all the people that come to me or who gravitate towards me are Workaholics.

And that is what I do get behind, underneath, and deep within that addiction so glorified by society and I rent it asunder.

I shatter every belief that it is so entrenched in your psyche and smash it to pieces.

Because I am so intimate with the addiction being a recovering workaholic myself. I take you through the process of Submission and Surrender, you come out the other side finding Joy and Colour and Fun. Never feeling guilty again.

So that is who I am and that is what I do.

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Having qualified as a Social Worker in July 1991 from Coventry University, it has been over two decades that I have been on the front line working with children and young people who are traumatized and on the margins of society. Although I studied Psycho-dynamic counselling for two years at Goldsmiths College (1991-1993), I decided to integrate Psycho-dynamic theories and skills into my Social work practice and flirt with and immerse myself in studying Islam as well as interfaith dialogue and friendships. For the last 20 years, I have been working in a multi-disciplinary Youth Offending Team in South London, comprised of Professional colleagues from different faiths and cultural backgrounds trying to support young people in the criminal justice system. I am married and mother to three sons, and juggle Social Work and interfaith dialogue with my writing, studying and the needs of home and family.


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