My work with boys aged 10 to 19 since 1997 has provided me with a unique standpoint and indepth experience of how the Male Psyche is formed, nurtured, sustained and healed.
As a Social Worker I have met with hundreds of boys with different experiences leading them to me.
The pain, the anguish, the rage and the sorrow they feel for others not understanding them, not being there for them, labelling them for being who they are, fearing them, I have no words.
And although I am a woman I have felt it.
I have felt it in my bones.
As I have held space for them.
And through the listening, the conversations, the untangling of entrenched beliefs, through the exploring of their relationships, they have found hope and healing.
That small window of hope is all some need.
Just to know that one person in the world understands them, no matter what they did or how they are behaving, helps in the rough moments, the difficult moments.
I raised a subject a few days ago which is hardly talked about beyond headlines and tragedies that young men are mostly likely to commit suicide in the western world.
It is a sobering statistic.
I want to continue that discussion here and in other places because it is a Truth many of us want to deny or cover up because we just do not understand it or do not want to understand it.
A lot of the boys that I work with are demonised by Society by Professionals that prefer to demonise them than understand them.
It is so easy to demonise than to understand.