June 6, 2023


“We teach best what we are here to learn”  Lorna Vaughn 

The more I reflect on these words, the more I know how TRUE this saying is.

Recently I went to a trip to North Wales with my husband and two sons who are 22 and 15 years old.

I left London on Saturday 27th May at 8am and arrived in North Wales at 4pm at a village called Llanfairfechan near Llandudno and returned to London on Monday 29th May at 830pm.

My husband and two sons and I stayed at a bed and breakfast called Plas Heulog 

It was what I really needed a weekend to give to myself and I really reflected on these words 

They kept coming back to me as I walked around the village and the peaks and the valleys.

I know I tend to give to others even when I am feeling drained, exhausted, burnt out, etc because giving is something I have done from a very young age.

But there is also giving to yourself

There is giving to God

I sometimes find my life is SO unbalanced and I am NOT at PEACE because these two other aspects of giving I have forgotten and as the most read poet in America Rumi says so well

“Never give from the depths of your well but from your overflow”

Because giving from your overflow is when that giving FLOWS

That giving is EASY, EFFORTLESS not forced 

And then the receiver ACCEPTS what is being given openly and the WARMTH of what is being given is FELT

Giving to me is something so natural, something I do like breathing 

Giving what do I mean by that 

Giving my time

Giving my expertise

Giving my ear

And listening as a teenage Palestinian girl told me at the Jewish Christian Muslim Partners in Dialogue Interfaith Conference that I attended in Germany back in February of this year, requires ALL the senses

I remember I started mediating between my friends fights at school at the age of 14 sorting out arguments between two different groups

It was then very natural for me to become a Social worker

Counselling others I have been doing WAY before I was professionally qualified to do it.

And so it became very quickly a norm from many friends and family members to come to me for advice, for colleagues to come to me to sound out problems with other colleagues 

When I qualified to become a Social worker in 1991 and then a Psychodynamic Counsellor in 1993, it took me many years to realise that all this giving was having an effect on me personally. 

Working in a psychodynamic way with children and young people in the criminal justice system as a social worker for 26 years like I have done takes it toll on my  physical, emotional, spiritual, psychological and gut health.

Running a side Online Consulting Business ALONGSIDE that demanding social work job takes it toll so that is why I consciously take TIME to replenish myself to be

With my family 

Go Offline 

With myself by sitting in silence 

With God by praying and meditating

With friends and family members who are not Social workers or Entrepreneurs 

With nature 

In Wales during this weekend I heard so many buzzing of bees and bleating of sheep. There were places my husband and my two sons and I went where the only sounds we could hear were our own voices and yes the buzzing of bees and bleating of sheep, we could not see another human being for miles.

To breathe some fresh country air and be surrounded by grassy peaks and valleys is really a good way to replenish that well.

To go on long walks without your phone and just following a trail to a waterfall is really a good way to replenish that well.

That well is your soul and it is THIRSTY for replenishment 

I was SO tired mentally before this weekend 

I felt it many days before we left on Friday 

Although alot of tasks I continued with that is the nature of what we do

Sometimes when we are working we need to carry on doing what we are doing, other lives are dependent on us and our inaction can be costly.

But when we give ourselves permission to TAKE time off and replenish that WELL




Yes it is so true “We reach best what we are here to learn”

I am realising more and more pacing myself is what I am here to learn 

Teaching High Achievers because I am a High Achiever myself and pacing myself is what I struggle with the most and each lesson I learn in how to PACE, when to pace, what aspect of my life to pace, what activity to slow down in and what activity to speed up in, and why it is important to pace is what I teach best

Because I am SO intimate with the struggles HighAchievers face in just being able to find the SPACE to figure out what is the right PACE for our life because it has been SO FAST most of our lives.

We have been on this FAST speed train 

Not having the chance to even PROCESS all the changes wehave have experienced in the last week let alone the last month, year or decade

Yes I teach best that if you don’t SLOW down in some aspects of our lives and SPEED up in some other aspects of our life we will CRASH

A Train going FAST does CRASH

I know we don’t want that 

And I know there are aspects of our lives that are painfully SLOW to change and the snail speed that these aspects are progressing at is SO frustrating for us.

This may be a book that we are writing 

This may be a business that we are building 

This may be a relationship that we are trying to improve 

This may be our house that we are trying to declutter 

This may be our health that we are trying to improve 

This may be that debt we are trying to get out

This may be that negative energy we are trying to shake off

Whatever it is I implore us High Achievers with LOVE to SLOW DOWN in some aspects of our lives that we adopt this FAST pace in and SPEED UP in aspects of our lives  that we adopt this SLOW pace in before we CRASH

For instance I noticed I walk very slowly

Others have noticed this in my life too and get SO frustrated with me

It is something I am working on and want to work on

But at times I am very resistant to work on

I tend to think and reflect alot as I am walking 

But I know this speeding up my walking pace will help me with fitness, blood circulation, my blood pressure, breathing, pump more oxygen in my brain, help me concentrate better.

Yes “we teach best what we are here to learn”

The saying is very paradoxical but SO true.

#musingsofthemuslimalchemist, #paceology



Taniya Hussain qualified as a Social Worker in 1991 from Coventry University in England. She has been working on the front lines, consistently holding space for individuals and families for three decades especially, children and young people on the margins of society. Taniya studied Psycho-dynamic counselling from 1991 to 1993 at Goldsmiths College in London. Taniya met Sheikha Halima Krausen in 1992 and has been studying Islam with her ever since especially Mystical Islam, Tassawuf (Sufism) and walks on the Chisti path. Taniya really started using the power of Jungian Pyschology and Mystical Islam when she started her Online Coaching and Consultancy Business in 2018 and discovered she was a powerful healer. When she discovered Shadow Alchemy in 2019, she started developing this modality into Muslim Alchemy in 2020. She now brands herself as the Muslim Alchemist because she is constantly integrating her knowledge of the Quran and Bible with her vast Social Work experience and her extensive ability of applying Psycho-dynamic, therapeutic techniques to organisational settings, team dynamics and when working with individuals and groups. This has both Online and Offline. Taniya uses skillfully her understanding of the Shadow, that Jung constantly talked about and her Mystical Training plus her experience in inter-faith dialogue since 2003, to help individuals and groups become conscious of what they previously were unconscious of leading to rapid success in their Business, Health and Relationships. Taniya has a great skill in being able to see the blind spots in others and in untanging energetic knots (a term she uses for Shadow) to promote healing from mental and physical disease. She uses her vast expertise and skills to help her Online Clients to get rid of decades of anxiety causing insomnia, depression and suicidal thoughts and marital problems. Clients usually are healed in a short amount of time never needing to invest in Therapy again. She really is the Muslim Alchemist as she turns the shitty experience of clients into golden experiences where they manifest upgraded, wealth, health and relationships all at the same time. Taniya got married in 1995 and has three sons born in 1996, 2001 and 2003 and lives in Surrey, England and when she is not developing Muslim Alchemy, she loves to spend time with her family and write fiction stories, songs and poems. She speaks fluent English and Urdu and basic German and French and is learning Arabic and Hebrew.


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