Usually all the New Year Resolutions that you set in January are tossed aside by the time February comes.
You haven’t stopped smoking
Dry January has come and gone and you are actually drinking more alcohol than less to cope with the work pressures. Being a workaholic, work does not end because working on yourself is a lifelong exercise isn’t it?
Even if working on the book, business, film, play etc is paused for that well deserved rest. working on yourself or your relationship with God or your relationship with your partner is something you have done all your life and has been worthwhile and made you what and who you are today. This individual who has achieved so much, much more than most of your friends or family who has it all.
But what if I told you that you don’t have to work on yourself or your relationship with God or on your relationship with your partner. Does that seem alien to you? Do you feel that is blasphemy? Do you feel that you would die? Do you feel that your relationship would fall apart or you will lose your faith?
Do you feel you will fall apart?
What if I told you that God would still be there?
I know this article is supposed to be about goal setting in February.
For me though sometimes a more smarter and effective way of goal setting is to only have one goal for the year and not to have many goals.
I know many High Performers and High Achievers have so many goals as they are working on a number of different ones at the same time.
However this leads to overwhelm and burnout and yes just working harder and becoming addicted to personal development.
Very few dreams are achieved because you want it all.
Because in reality you don’t have it all.
You may look like you do on the outside but inside you are so scared you will lose it all.
The anxiety is crippling you and you really hate this image that you project of having it all.
Really for you the most smartest and fastest and more effective strategy you could take to figure out a clear and achievable goal is to ask yourself this question: what do YOU really want?
Not what your partner wants or God wants or what your customer wants or what you think they want.
This is one of the most difficult questions to ask yourself.
And yet it is so necessary for us who have achieved SO much.
To take the time and space out of our busy lives to ask that question.
We are usually so busy doing and giving to others that we often don’t know what we REALLY want. And then a whole year has gone by and we are in the same position we were in the beginning of the year.
So perhaps you can take some time out of your day to meditate, to sit in silence for a moment and ask the universe what do you really want?
Perhaps you can look in the mirror each day and ask that question for a week?
Perhaps you can mull about it by journalling what comes up?
All three of these activities my clients who work with me do when they embark on the spiritual alchemy quest.
This is an exciting adventure which uncovers for them what they really want.
I call it The personal alchemy journey.
Taking this journey uncovers the goal you want.
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Taniya Hussain qualified as a Social Worker in 1991 from Coventry University in England, UK. She has been working on the front lines in London UK, consistently holding space for individuals and families in chaos and crisis for three decades especially, children and young people on the margins of society. Taniya studied Psycho-dynamic counselling from 1991 to 1993 at Goldsmiths College in London. Taniya met Sheikha Halima Krausen in 1992 and has been studying Islam with her ever since especially Mystical Islam, Tassawuf (Sufism) and walks on the Chisti path. Taniya fuses Jungian Pyschology and Islamic Psychology and this fusion can best be understood if you read her book Dancing with Darkness which is available on Amazon. It became a Best Seller on Amazon in the UK, U.S and France in April 2025. The book tells the story of Tamara Alvi, a fictional charachter and is a psychological thriller and a story of healing. Taniya started her coaching and consulting business in January 2018 and she works mainly with High Achievers and High Performers and High Performing Leaders, offering reflective spaces since 2018 and what she refers to as THE REFLECTIVE SPACE. Taniya since starting her busines discovered that she is a powerful healer and was shocked that clients were relieved from pain even though they have been diagnosed with a chronic illness. Taniya is delighted to have discovered Paceology, which is the detailed study of PACE. She is the first paceologist. She noticed when working with high performers when you slow down in one area of your life, this causes you to speed up in another area and vice cersa thus leading to increased levels of productivity, creativity, clarity and energy. She brands herself as the Muslim Alchemist because she really is The Muslim Alchemist as she guides you to transfom the base, in other words the shit that you have experienced into GOLD whether that is love of yourself or God or another human being or a healthier body or a life where you feel at peace and calm and fulfilled or more energy or more money. You definintely will feel lighter, more freer and more clearer even if you book one consultation with her or several sessions.
Taniya has a very holistic approach when working with individuals and works with you on multiple layers, the emotional, the psychological, the social, the physical, the mental and the spriritual. She uses stories from the Quran and the Bible when working with clients on a one to one basis or in group workshops as well as breathwork, body scanning, cognitive behavioural therapy, neuro linguistic programming, motivational interviewing. systems theory, neuro science. She is trained in multiple modalities as well as using her own Paceology and insists on offering her clients a trauma informed and trauma responsive service.
She is constantly integrating her knowledge of the Quran and Bible with her vast social work experience and training. Taniya's extensive ability of applying psycho-dynamic theory to organisational settings, teams and groups as well as to individuals results in those who attend her sessions or workshops as feeling lighter and more energised. Taniya uses skillfully her understanding of the Shadow, that Jung constantly talked about and her Mystical Training. She also has integrated her passion for inter-faith dialogue and the archetypes that Jung often refers to, come alive in her one to one sessions and her group workshops thus resulting in individuals feeling more freer and fulfilled after they stop working with her. Taniya just does not provide clarity she WAKES you up to. Taniya has a great skill in being able to see the blind spots in others and does this in a non judgemental way and a way that you feel safe. She also "untangles energetic knots" (a term she uses for Shadow) in your body to promote healing from mental and physical disease. Clients usually are healed in a short amount of time because she pinpoints the memory, the event, the thought that first caused the disease. She also provides one to one sessios or training workshops to social work teams, school, secure and prison estate on youth justice, knife crime prevention as well asidentification and prevention of early onset of burnout.
Taniya has three sons, who were born in 1996, 2001 and 200 and lives in Surrey, England and when she is not coaching or writing songs, blogs and poems, she loves to spend time, travelling, walking, listening to music, watching films or playing cricket.
She speaks fluent English and Urdu and basic German and French and is learning Arabic and Hebrew.
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