Acceptance has always been tricky for me. I always found it difficult to accept situations that make my blood boil. There was a gut instinct I had from a young age, call it conscience or an innate responsibility, I felt to fight for justice! Perhaps I was fighting for myself? Perhaps in fighting for others, I helped myself!
It makes sense that in my early twenties I became a qualified Social Worker. So when I saw injustice I did not accept it, I mostly tried to act against it or spoke against it and in those times I felt I needed to stay silent, I found I never accepted the state of affairs in my heart! Twenty seven years later and although still a Social Worker by day who advocates for young people in the criminal justice system and refuses to accept that they are treated with contempt but dignity, one major thing has changed. For the last six months, I am accepting my role and purpose is being a Trauma Recovery Coach who enables individuals to accept the situation they find themselves in, whether that is the traumatic experience they have had in their lives or the trauma they have to witness every day during their working week because they chose to be a Doctor. Psychologist. Social Worker or Nurse. I know the challenge of accepting difficult situations very intimately.
So when I talk about acceptance, I am sure you understand now I am talking about an inner process and situations we cannot change like a death of a loved one or illness we have to deal with. I am sure now you know, I am not asking you to accept injustice or oppression or abuse. I am talking about accepting things we cannot control that are beyond any action we can take. I am talking about how we reconcile ourselves to affiction, advserity and suffering.
This reconciling I always find means letting go of our need to control the situation and giving ourselves permission to just rest from the situation or to embrace it. This embracing is not easy. But no matter how terrible I have found in this embracing reconciling and resting lies some peace and ability to move on.
Acceptance of the most traumatic of situations allows a small shift to occur, so from shock or horror or denial, healing is enabled. This embracing. This letting go. this allowing ourselves to rest is the key to healing. It is a very small shift but big things happen.
Acceptance for me is going beyond the self to a realm of something greater more wiser than myself.
I have then felt an immense release and relief. In the most darkest of moments and when working with my clients, this acceptance unravels so much!
Acceptance is not just an intellectual exercise. It relies on emotional and spiritual muscle.
Acceptance in the most painful and adverse of situations has involved for me and my clients a tremendous leap of faith but paradoxically also drowning in a sea of doubt.
More than anything I know acceptance is not a passive activity. I will talk about that more next time. For now I hope whatever you need to accept enables healing and growth within you and those around you.
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Taniya Hussain qualified as a Social Worker in 1991 from Coventry University in England, UK. She has been working on the front lines in London UK, consistently holding space for individuals and families in chaos and crisis for three decades especially, children and young people on the margins of society. Taniya studied Psycho-dynamic counselling from 1991 to 1993 at Goldsmiths College in London. Taniya met Sheikha Halima Krausen in 1992 and has been studying Islam with her ever since especially Mystical Islam, Tassawuf (Sufism) and walks on the Chisti path. Taniya fuses Jungian Pyschology and Islamic Psychology and this fusion can best be understood if you read her book Dancing with Darkness which is available on Amazon. It became a Best Seller on Amazon in the UK, U.S and France in April 2025. The book tells the story of Tamara Alvi, a fictional charachter and is a psychological thriller and a story of healing. Taniya started her coaching and consulting business in January 2018 and she works mainly with High Achievers and High Performers and High Performing Leaders, offering reflective spaces since 2018 and what she refers to as THE REFLECTIVE SPACE. Taniya since starting her busines discovered that she is a powerful healer and was shocked that clients were relieved from pain even though they have been diagnosed with a chronic illness. Taniya is delighted to have discovered Paceology, which is the detailed study of PACE. She is the first paceologist. She noticed when working with high performers when you slow down in one area of your life, this causes you to speed up in another area and vice cersa thus leading to increased levels of productivity, creativity, clarity and energy. She brands herself as the Muslim Alchemist because she really is The Muslim Alchemist as she guides you to transfom the base, in other words the shit that you have experienced into GOLD whether that is love of yourself or God or another human being or a healthier body or a life where you feel at peace and calm and fulfilled or more energy or more money. You definintely will feel lighter, more freer and more clearer even if you book one consultation with her or several sessions.
Taniya has a very holistic approach when working with individuals and works with you on multiple layers, the emotional, the psychological, the social, the physical, the mental and the spriritual. She uses stories from the Quran and the Bible when working with clients on a one to one basis or in group workshops as well as breathwork, body scanning, cognitive behavioural therapy, neuro linguistic programming, motivational interviewing. systems theory, neuro science. She is trained in multiple modalities as well as using her own Paceology and insists on offering her clients a trauma informed and trauma responsive service.
She is constantly integrating her knowledge of the Quran and Bible with her vast social work experience and training. Taniya's extensive ability of applying psycho-dynamic theory to organisational settings, teams and groups as well as to individuals results in those who attend her sessions or workshops as feeling lighter and more energised. Taniya uses skillfully her understanding of the Shadow, that Jung constantly talked about and her Mystical Training. She also has integrated her passion for inter-faith dialogue and the archetypes that Jung often refers to, come alive in her one to one sessions and her group workshops thus resulting in individuals feeling more freer and fulfilled after they stop working with her. Taniya just does not provide clarity she WAKES you up to. Taniya has a great skill in being able to see the blind spots in others and does this in a non judgemental way and a way that you feel safe. She also "untangles energetic knots" (a term she uses for Shadow) in your body to promote healing from mental and physical disease. Clients usually are healed in a short amount of time because she pinpoints the memory, the event, the thought that first caused the disease. She also provides one to one sessios or training workshops to social work teams, school, secure and prison estate on youth justice, knife crime prevention as well asidentification and prevention of early onset of burnout.
Taniya has three sons, who were born in 1996, 2001 and 200 and lives in Surrey, England and when she is not coaching or writing songs, blogs and poems, she loves to spend time, travelling, walking, listening to music, watching films or playing cricket.
She speaks fluent English and Urdu and basic German and French and is learning Arabic and Hebrew.
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