June 3, 2018

Claiming Part Two

Claiming is a process! I know that to heal from Trauma or to cope with adversity, claiming yourself from the conflict, confusion or chaos in your life is so necessary.

Claiming your power is an inside job ANONYMOUS

And I have found in the dark moments, months or years in my life that when I claimed my power, I found my gifts, talents, strengths, beauty and light within myself too.

Paradoxically at the same time I had to, embrace the weaknesses and vulnerabilities, crap, ugliness, incompentencies and darkness within myself too.

The human spirit houses both light and darkness and to deny the latter, I found was always my undoing. Denying my darkness meant I stopped taking responsibility for my life and continued blaming others for my life choices and this has ruined my relationships with others.

Human beings experience the spectrum of human emotion!The human spirit embodies light as well as darkness! The will to do good as well as evil!

As a Trauma Recovery Coach, I have witnessed multiple times what occurs to the human spirit when it experiences trauma; the human spirit ends up fracturing; the mind, soul and body split from each other!

I know when you have experienced Trauma in your own life or you are surrounded by Trauma due to the Profession you have chosen, this fracturing of the Human Spirit occurs consciously or unconsciously.

Disassociation is an example of this fracturing. I know in my life there have been so many times, when I have difficulty feeling rage, shame or bitterness. I have though discovered that this rage is stored deep within my body and manifests itself as illnesses. The rage needs to be expressed but because I no longer recognise as it rage, it goes unchecked only to release itself as a tsunami causing extreme destruction. The destruction has invariably been leashed mostly towards myself, but at times, it has been unleashed against my husband and against my sons! My relationships with all of them remain intact but words hurt and words can never be taken back and I still regret speaking them.

Am I talking too generally here?

Let me more specific and get to the point. If you are reading this and like me, you know you entered the Caring Profession and decided to be a Doctor, Social Worker, Nurse, Youth worker, Teacher or Psychologist and the list goes on, for the reason that its a vocation, your soul’s calling then these words are for you . If you are reading this and like me, have over the years, witnessed so much trauma in your patients and your clients lives and you recognise that the Trauma is taking a toll on you and your relationships, then please read on. If you recognise that the trauma is claiming your life, be patient with me and tell me if this is you!

You find it difficult to relax on most days.

You are arguing with your partner and you just do not know why!

Your marriage or relationship has not been the same for some years.

You feel distant from your Partner!

You find you start a project at home but can never see it all the way through and that leaves you unhappy with yourself!

Perhaps then these are signs that you need some clarity in your life in order to discover what do you really want in your life? Perhaps you want to discover what is your life’s purpose? Perhaps you need some clarity in how you can improve the relationships in your life?

If any of the above is the case, I would urge you to schedule a clarity call with me by using the link below!

https://calendly.com/contact-3453/15min

I know this claiming and to attain or affirm yourself is an uncomfortable process. However I know when I started travelling down a road I had never travelled nine months ago; it has lead me to discover my life’s purpose of being a Trauma Recovery Coach. In reaching out to people like you. I also am pursuing my dream of being a Writer

Both activities for me are a labour of love. I also know that I would not be doing these if I had not scheduled a Clarity Call with a Coach in 2017.

Robert Frost writes in his poem

The Road not taken:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-

I took the one less travelled by,

And that has made all the difference.

I know when I decided to claim myself from the chaos, confusion and conflict around me and look within, it took a leap of faith! Coaching has made all the difference in my life and I want it to make a difference in your life.

Claiming has meant that I am no longer angry at those around me for my life choices.

Claiming has meant that I take responsibility for my life choices!

Claiming has meant that I finish things I start and feel more fulfilled with my life, rather than pulled in so many directions and unfulfilled.

Claiming has meant that I am not having arguments with my husband.

Claiming has meant that I am more conscious of the toll witnessing Trauma in my job as a Social Worker takes on me. Therefore I invest in self care more and I no longer feel guilty about it.

Claiming has meant that my health is better, my blood pressure is under control and I have lost weight.

Claiming has meant that I am able to relax and enjoy the pleasures of life.

If you want to know how Claiming helped me then follow me on WordPress or on my Facebook Page Taniya Hussain Coaching and Consultancy Services!

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Taniya Hussain qualified as a Social Worker in 1991 from Coventry University in England, UK. She has been working on the front lines in London UK, consistently holding space for individuals and families in chaos and crisis for three decades especially, children and young people on the margins of society. Taniya studied Psycho-dynamic counselling from 1991 to 1993 at Goldsmiths College in London. Taniya met Sheikha Halima Krausen in 1992 and has been studying Islam with her ever since especially Mystical Islam, Tassawuf (Sufism) and walks on the Chisti path. Taniya fuses Jungian Pyschology and Islamic Psychology and this fusion can best be understood if you read her book Dancing with Darkness which is available on Amazon. It became a Best Seller on Amazon in the UK, U.S and France in April 2025. The book tells the story of Tamara Alvi, a fictional charachter and is a psychological thriller and a story of healing. Taniya started her coaching and consulting business in January 2018 and she works mainly with High Achievers and High Performers and High Performing Leaders, offering reflective spaces since 2018 and what she refers to as THE REFLECTIVE SPACE. Taniya since starting her busines discovered that she is a powerful healer and was shocked that clients were relieved from pain even though they have been diagnosed with a chronic illness. Taniya is delighted to have discovered Paceology, which is the detailed study of PACE. She is the first paceologist. She noticed when working with high performers when you slow down in one area of your life, this causes you to speed up in another area and vice cersa thus leading to increased levels of productivity, creativity, clarity and energy. She brands herself as the Muslim Alchemist because she really is The Muslim Alchemist as she guides you to transfom the base, in other words the shit that you have experienced into GOLD whether that is love of yourself or God or another human being or a healthier body or a life where you feel at peace and calm and fulfilled or more energy or more money. You definintely will feel lighter, more freer and more clearer even if you book one consultation with her or several sessions. Taniya has a very holistic approach when working with individuals and works with you on multiple layers, the emotional, the psychological, the social, the physical, the mental and the spriritual. She uses stories from the Quran and the Bible when working with clients on a one to one basis or in group workshops as well as breathwork, body scanning, cognitive behavioural therapy, neuro linguistic programming, motivational interviewing. systems theory, neuro science. She is trained in multiple modalities as well as using her own Paceology and insists on offering her clients a trauma informed and trauma responsive service. She is constantly integrating her knowledge of the Quran and Bible with her vast social work experience and training. Taniya's extensive ability of applying psycho-dynamic theory to organisational settings, teams and groups as well as to individuals results in those who attend her sessions or workshops as feeling lighter and more energised. Taniya uses skillfully her understanding of the Shadow, that Jung constantly talked about and her Mystical Training. She also has integrated her passion for inter-faith dialogue and the archetypes that Jung often refers to, come alive in her one to one sessions and her group workshops thus resulting in individuals feeling more freer and fulfilled after they stop working with her. Taniya just does not provide clarity she WAKES you up to. Taniya has a great skill in being able to see the blind spots in others and does this in a non judgemental way and a way that you feel safe. She also "untangles energetic knots" (a term she uses for Shadow) in your body to promote healing from mental and physical disease. Clients usually are healed in a short amount of time because she pinpoints the memory, the event, the thought that first caused the disease. She also provides one to one sessios or training workshops to social work teams, school, secure and prison estate on youth justice, knife crime prevention as well asidentification and prevention of early onset of burnout. Taniya has three sons, who were born in 1996, 2001 and 200 and lives in Surrey, England and when she is not coaching or writing songs, blogs and poems, she loves to spend time, travelling, walking, listening to music, watching films or playing cricket. She speaks fluent English and Urdu and basic German and French and is learning Arabic and Hebrew.

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