June 7, 2018

Breaking Part One

This week I am posting about Breaking!
The Cambridge Dictionary refers to breaking as the act of breaking.
Break though is defined in a number of ways
1. Damage
To cause something to separate suddenly or violently into two or more pieces or to cause something to stop working by being damaged.

2. End
To destroy or end something or come to an end

3. Record
To do something better than the best known speed, time or number

4. Not obey
To fail to keep a law rule or promise

5. Divide
To cause something to divide into two or more parts or groups

6. Interrupt
To interrupt or stop something for a short period

7. Use force
To go somewhere or to do something by force

8. Emotion
To lose your confidence, determination or clarity to control yourself or to make someone do this

9. Become Known
To become known or to make something become known

I look at all the ways the word break is defined above and I am amazed that in dark and difficult times, I have experienced breaking in all these ways. Breaking for me is an inner process! Breaking for me results in the evolution of your Soul or if you are not spiritual like me, an evolution of yourself. This breaking then results in massive transformations in your life.

Let me take you from this dry dictionary definition down a journey which starts downhill but makes you feel by the end of it that you are reaching the sky.

Come with me as I share with you my story about what happens to me in dark and difficult times. I am sure you experience all of the above within the confines of your soul or Self (or whatever you want to call it) when you go through difficult or dark times.

Firstly there is damage I feel in my heart (although some of that is damage to my ego) but what I feel more acutely during breaking, is the way, my heart shatters into a million pieces and feels so fractured and broken that it will collapse with the weight of the pain. Whether that pain is to do with others hurting my feelings or my trust being violated or the trauma of my client, or the guilt of not being there for a loved one or the loss of a loved one; I have always been weighed down by emotional pain. Don’t you find emotional pain feels weightier and more intolerable than physical pain?

Physical pain feels to me finite, whereas emotional feels infinite. Of course it is not infinite but it really feels that way doesn’t it?

Secondly when your heart is breaking something usually is coming to an end, whether that is the actual relationship or the perception of the relationship, or the dynamics of the relationship. I know each time with this ending or destruction, a new dawn ensues and sometimes a healthier dynamic within the relationship results or a healthier perception of the relationship? Hearts need to break. Breaking is inevitable.

Although during this breaking, I have lost my clarity and confidence, I have come to know myself so much more. Breaking involves also that others know you and your soul’s calling become known to you. Breaking lead me to know my life’s purpose! To serve you as a Trauma Recovery Coach! I always wanted to write! Now I write to call you to invest in self care and slowing down and simplifying your life. It was only when I stopped and slowed down that I found I could invest in self-care. Most of my life I was too busy rushing around and it was only when I slowed down, I was able to simplify my life by asking questions what is it that I wanted to do in my life not what is expected of me!

If you want to know how I slowed down and simplified my life, I will tell you the first step I took in self-care was scheduling a clarity call with a Coach!

Why don’t you then start your journey into self-care by scheduling your clarity call? I have opened Tuesday and Wednesday next week, two extra days! All I know with my 27 years of experience with working with Trauma and your courage, only clarity can result!

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Taniya Hussain qualified as a Social Worker in 1991 from Coventry University in England, UK. She has been working on the front lines in London UK, consistently holding space for individuals and families in chaos and crisis for three decades especially, children and young people on the margins of society. Taniya studied Psycho-dynamic counselling from 1991 to 1993 at Goldsmiths College in London. Taniya met Sheikha Halima Krausen in 1992 and has been studying Islam with her ever since especially Mystical Islam, Tassawuf (Sufism) and walks on the Chisti path. Taniya fuses Jungian Pyschology and Islamic Psychology and this fusion can best be understood if you read her book Dancing with Darkness which is available on Amazon. It became a Best Seller on Amazon in the UK, U.S and France in April 2025. The book tells the story of Tamara Alvi, a fictional charachter and is a psychological thriller and a story of healing. Taniya started her coaching and consulting business in January 2018 and she works mainly with High Achievers and High Performers and High Performing Leaders, offering reflective spaces since 2018 and what she refers to as THE REFLECTIVE SPACE. Taniya since starting her busines discovered that she is a powerful healer and was shocked that clients were relieved from pain even though they have been diagnosed with a chronic illness. Taniya is delighted to have discovered Paceology, which is the detailed study of PACE. She is the first paceologist. She noticed when working with high performers when you slow down in one area of your life, this causes you to speed up in another area and vice cersa thus leading to increased levels of productivity, creativity, clarity and energy. She brands herself as the Muslim Alchemist because she really is The Muslim Alchemist as she guides you to transfom the base, in other words the shit that you have experienced into GOLD whether that is love of yourself or God or another human being or a healthier body or a life where you feel at peace and calm and fulfilled or more energy or more money. You definintely will feel lighter, more freer and more clearer even if you book one consultation with her or several sessions. Taniya has a very holistic approach when working with individuals and works with you on multiple layers, the emotional, the psychological, the social, the physical, the mental and the spriritual. She uses stories from the Quran and the Bible when working with clients on a one to one basis or in group workshops as well as breathwork, body scanning, cognitive behavioural therapy, neuro linguistic programming, motivational interviewing. systems theory, neuro science. She is trained in multiple modalities as well as using her own Paceology and insists on offering her clients a trauma informed and trauma responsive service. She is constantly integrating her knowledge of the Quran and Bible with her vast social work experience and training. Taniya's extensive ability of applying psycho-dynamic theory to organisational settings, teams and groups as well as to individuals results in those who attend her sessions or workshops as feeling lighter and more energised. Taniya uses skillfully her understanding of the Shadow, that Jung constantly talked about and her Mystical Training. She also has integrated her passion for inter-faith dialogue and the archetypes that Jung often refers to, come alive in her one to one sessions and her group workshops thus resulting in individuals feeling more freer and fulfilled after they stop working with her. Taniya just does not provide clarity she WAKES you up to. Taniya has a great skill in being able to see the blind spots in others and does this in a non judgemental way and a way that you feel safe. She also "untangles energetic knots" (a term she uses for Shadow) in your body to promote healing from mental and physical disease. Clients usually are healed in a short amount of time because she pinpoints the memory, the event, the thought that first caused the disease. She also provides one to one sessios or training workshops to social work teams, school, secure and prison estate on youth justice, knife crime prevention as well asidentification and prevention of early onset of burnout. Taniya has three sons, who were born in 1996, 2001 and 200 and lives in Surrey, England and when she is not coaching or writing songs, blogs and poems, she loves to spend time, travelling, walking, listening to music, watching films or playing cricket. She speaks fluent English and Urdu and basic German and French and is learning Arabic and Hebrew.

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