Goal Setting.A more smarter and effective way for High performers and High Achievers in February?

Usually all the New Year Resolutions that you set in January are tossed aside by the time February comes.
You haven’t stopped smoking.
Dry January has come and gone and you are actually drinking more alcohol than less to cope with the work pressures. Being a workaholic, work does not end because working on yourself is a lifelong exercise isn’t it?

Even if working on the book, business, film, play etc is paused for that well deserved rest. working on yourself or your relationship with God or your relationship with your partner is something you have done all your life and has been worthwhile and made you what and who you are today. This individual who has achieved so much, much more than most of your friends or family who has it all.

But what if I told you that you don’t have to work on yourself or your relationship with God or on your relationship with your partner.

Does that seem alien to you?

Do you feel that it is blasphemy?

Do you feel that you would die?

Do you feel that your relationship would fall apart or will you lose your faith?

Do you feel you will fall apart?

What if I told you that God would still be there?

I know this article is supposed to be about goal setting in February.

For me though sometimes a more smarter and effective way of goal setting is to only have one goal for the year and not to have many goals.

I know many High Performers and High Achievers have so many goals as they are working on a number of different ones at the same time.

However this leads to overwhelm and burnout and yes just working harder and becoming addicted to personal development.

Very few dreams are achieved by working on too many goals at the same time.
Because in reality you don’t have it all.
No one has it all.
You may look like you do on the outside but inside you are so scared you will lose it all.

The anxiety is crippling you and you really hate this image that you project of having it all.

Really for you the smartest and fastest and more effective strategy you could take to figure out a clear and achievable goal is to ask yourself this question: what do YOU really want?

Not what your partner wants or God wants or what your customer wants or what you think they want.

This is one of the most difficult questions to ask yourself.

And yet it is so necessary for us who have achieved SO much.

To take the time and space out of our busy lives to ask that question.

We are usually so busy doing and giving to others that we often don’t know what we REALLY want. And then a whole year has gone by and we are in the same position we were in the beginning of the year.
That dream of travelling to that place we always wanted to travel to, did not happen.

That dream of having a day where we just watched crappy TV didn’t happen.

I know this is your guilty pleasure but in your fast paced life, this is what you dream of.
I know that used to be me.
And guess what as I am writing this, I have spent the morning and the early afternoon, watching romantic movies. My actor son says I am wasting my time.
Sometimes you need a day though in your life where you waste time. Do nothing worthwhile. Take it slow..Just potter around the house. Don’t go anywhere. Have a lie in.
Would you agree?
Perhaps this guilty pleasure could become a pleasure you enjoy and savour.

Taking some time out of your day to meditate can be effective in terms of goal setting. Taking some time out of your day to sit in silence for a few moments and ask the universe/God, what do you really want can also be effective?

Perhaps you can look in the mirror each day and ask that question for a week?

Perhaps you can mull about it by journalling what comes up?

All three of these activities my clients who work with me do when they embark on The Reflective Space Adventure. I used to refer to it as The Spiritual Alchemy Quest. I prefer the former name as it is more of an exciting adventure which uncovers for you what you really want.

The adventure comprises four journeys and the first which is The Personal Alchemy Journey  uncovers the goal you want.

The goal you REALLY want to achieve this year.

In 2025 I want to publish my book.
I started writing it a few months ago and apart from that I really don’t have many other goals.
I have decided to simplify my life this year.
I already achieved one of my goals and that was to travel to New Zealand to see my eldest son.
I did that in January 2025.
I started asking myself this question very early in March 2024. That is when my birthday is and March for me is really the New Year.

So let me leave you with the question again. What do you REALLY want?

Did You Love This Article?

Did it really resonate with you? I have a feeling it did because you finally found someone who understands you—someone who can see the importance you place on reflection and has some awareness of the fact that we live in a hustle culture that actually feels very claustrophobic and can see past the superficiality of 21st century life and over reliance on being online.

Acknowledging The Lies of 21st Century life!

In our society, work and personal development are idolized, while drug addiction, alcohol addiction, and sex addiction are viewed as obvious villains. Yet, working is often celebrated in the 21st century, and self-improvement has become a multi-billion dollar industry.

The Limits of Self-Help

However, self-help can only assist you to a certain extent. While it’s important to spend time reflecting and sitting in silence, we are not islands. We are social beings, living in communities—both offline and online.

Many religious and spiritual traditions, some centuries old, teach that you have all the answers within you if you only look deep enough. This is contrary to the New Age Spirituality movement, which often suggests that you need to do certain things to heal. Most religious traditions teach that we come into the world whole and complete, but sadly, we forget this. That’s why it’s crucial to unlearn what we’ve been taught and much of what we see online and in modern psychology.

The Importance of Reflective Practices

Unlearning requires investing in a reflective space with a professional or a set of professionals. In social work and therapy circles, this is common practice and is known as reflective practice or supervision. While many professionals engage in this to understand their clients, I have found that many do not do this for themselves. This applies to innovative change-makers, visionary entrepreneurs, high-performing leaders, and high achievers, who often hire professional help for their teams, families, and pets but neglect their own needs.

In today’s world, where information overload is common and scams are on the rise, discerning who to hire for your personal growth takes time. As a leader, I understand that you need to carefully select a consultant, coach, healer, or therapist who is not only competent but also highly skilled.

The Quest for Transformation

Honestly, I know that what matters to you isn’t just my identity or qualifications, but how quickly I can facilitate your transformation from point A to point B. And you want that transformation yesterday, am I correct?

While I can’t facilitate it overnight, I can certainly do it faster than my competitors.

– What takes others minutes takes me seconds.
– What takes others hours takes me minutes.
– What takes others days takes me hours.
– What takes others weeks takes me days.
– What takes others months takes me weeks.
– What takes others years takes me months.
– What takes others decades takes me years.

The Muslim Alchemist

I brand myself as The Muslim Alchemist, not out of arrogance or because it sounds cool, but because, as one of my coaches pointed out, I truly embody this title. With over thirty years of experience as a practicing social worker in London, United Kingdom, I have learned how to use limited resources to provide opportunity and hope. Even when faced with challenging situations, I have witnessed my clients transform their lives for the better.

By the way, alchemy is the process of transforming base metals into gold. It comes from the Arabic word “Al Chemy.” The ancient Arabs discovered this practice from the Egyptians, who found ways to turn base metals into gold. From alchemy, chemistry and other sciences emerged. Social workers are modern-day alchemists, and through my extensive experience with countless individuals—children, teenagers, parents, and professionals—I have seen many turn their struggles into success.

Personal Experience Matters

My lived experience as a parent of three sons, including one diagnosed with Developmental Language Disorder in 2013, adds depth to my understanding of being a parent and working with children and young people with special education needs. You can trust that I empathize with your struggles and have the insight you seek.

Moreover, I have been married for three decades. You know from your own experiences that long-term relationships come with their challenges, both good and bad. This extensive experience, combined with my knowledge of the human condition, offers you immense wisdom to tap into.

A Non-Judgmental Space

Having studied Islam, Judaism, and Christianity with various religious leaders since 1993, I provide a non-judgmental service rooted in traditional religious and spiritual wisdom.

I offer you **THE REFLECTIVE SPACE** in various forms. No matter how you choose to enter this space, the typical results are profound, rapid, and lasting transformations in health, wealth, or relationships. Many clients have embarked on this reflective journey since I started my business in 2018.

Diverse Transformational Journeys

Some clients, like Zahra*, have completed the personal alchemy journey. Others, like Liz*, have undertaken both personal and identity alchemy journeys. Some have explored all three journeys—personal, identity, and practical—with clients like Asma*.

What use is an adventure if it doesn’t equip you with practical skills for everyday life? Many personal development programs foster dependence on a coach or therapist, but I don’t believe in that model. Some of my clients have rehired me, but usually for entirely different challenges.

To complete the adventure—one that delves into your life and business in depth—there is the emotional alchemy journey. Transmuting repressed feelings requires confronting painful thoughts and emotions. This process demands skill and years of experience, especially if you have buried these feelings deep within. Doing this alongside someone who understands emotional pain can be incredibly liberating and nurturing.

Finding Peace in Vulnerability

I know from personal experience how difficult it can be to face emotional pain. For most of my life, I avoided feeling my own pain, immersing myself in work and family responsibilities until I slowed down in August 2017. The emotional alchemy journey is the hardest path to walk, especially if you’ve numbed your feelings with work and success.

Investing in a professional who understands that there comes a time when you can no longer carry the weight alone can feel incredibly peaceful. It’s like finding a friend who truly understands.

Building a Friendship Takes Time

However, I recognize that building a friendship takes time, and it cannot be established through a single article. I invite you to take a moment out of your busy life to join my Telegram community, where I share videos, audios, and articles, and engage in discussions about the latest insights.

-Join my Telegram Community
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Transformation of Consciousness Community

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Remember, transformation is possible, but traveling the road less traveled on your own takes a long time. You don’t have to go it alone now that you are awake and seeking a fulfilled life. The journey takes far less time when you have a friend to accompany you.

If you’re like me and want your transformation yesterday but are unsure which of my services is best for you, I encourage you to book a **FREE 15-minute consultation** using the link below:

https://calendly.com/contact-3453/15min

If you are interested in embarking on The Reflective Space Adventure then you can use this link to apply for a place. I work with up to three clients in any given year.
Please fill in the form as fully and honestly as it will help me ascertain if this fits your lifestyle.

https://calendly.com/contact-3453/applyforthereflectivespaceadventure



*Names marked with an asterisk are fictional to protect the identity of real individuals who wish to remain anonymous. I offer a private and confidential service, especially for clients who are well-known in their own communities or industries.

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