May 29, 2018

Acceptance Part Three

This series of blogs is about acceptance!

I mentioned in a previous blog that the process of acceptance is active not passive. Of course those of you who are intimate with adversity know acceptance in these cases can never be a passive resignation to the situation and neither is the process linear. Our minds are biologically trained when faced with adversity or trauma to either fight, flee or freeze. Even freezing requires effort and energy.

There are also two other responses that humans have to trauma which are not commonly known; floating and frolicking.

I will talk about these another day. For now I want to focus on fighting, flight and freezing,

I know many people freeze when they face adversity or trauma! Shock freezes them! I know many people want to run away from a difficult situation. It is not surprising that minds are hard wired to escape from what is distressing! I know I want to fight against difficult situations!

Fighting can occur in many forms! Trying to change the situation by acting against it like for instance in terms of gun and knife-crime by accepting the epidemic exists intellectually but networking with others who work on the ground to look at solutions. I know you, like me when struggling with so much often only have your voice and your words to fight with and there are times that even they have difficulty in coming out or making any sense. I know some of you fight with a fire in your heart hating the situation especially if abuse or oppression is occurring!

There is also a fire in your heart when you have been violated, whether that is your trust or your body! There is that fighting spirit that you find is rekindled in your soul when you cannot accept a loved one’s death or illness! I know I find I am so angry with God when I face adversity.

As a Trauma Recovery Coach, I find this fighting with God actually heals me and leads me to acceptance of difficult events or tragedy. This permission I give myself to argue and express my rage with God has been my saving Grace!

I find many people are denied this saving Grace. Perhaps like me, you grew up in a family where God was never questioned. His will was never questioned. I find having environments like this, when you cannot be honest and open with yourself about God, results in barriers being erected to acceptance, healing gets delayed. I know in my life my constantly questioning why things were a certain way, prevented me from drowning in depths of depression.

At the same time, over the years, I have also learned that sometimes I have no control over events and even my feelings!

Although I have been angry with God during adversity, I have found these feelings subside to be replaced by calmness and serenity. I know acceptance involves, being open to the possibilities that your feelings and thoughts may change regarding situations!

Acceptance for me during adversity has involved me feeling the wide spectrum of emotions. There is bitterness, rage, guilt and there are all the other emotions which are too numerous to mention.

Acceptance can be a slow process or a fast process! All I know acceptance is “feeling the feel” as Richard Grannon the UK based, Coach says because alot of us are used to just feeling in our heads!

Acceptance for me is your gut feeling the situation!

Acceptance is your soul healing you! Acceptance is affirmation!

Acceptance is peace and tranquillity!

Acceptance is the sweet silence of serenity!

During adversity, especially in the midst of trauma and tragedy, when I have experienced an event, I have also accepted myself for who I am, a human being with limitations and immense gifts!

Acceptance of difficult situations in my life, has enabled me to start claiming who I am! I hope to start a new series of blogs on the process of claiming yourself.

As a Trauma Recovery Coach, I find this claiming is the key to healing fractured souls. I know when you have experienced trauma you do not have a sense of self and you find it so difficult to feel. I hope to detail this process for you soon like I have detailed the process of acceptance.

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Taniya Hussain qualified as a Social Worker in 1991 from Coventry University in England. She has been working on the front lines, consistently holding space for individuals and families for three decades especially, children and young people on the margins of society. Taniya studied Psycho-dynamic counselling from 1991 to 1993 at Goldsmiths College in London. Taniya met Sheikha Halima Krausen in 1992 and has been studying Islam with her ever since especially Mystical Islam, Tassawuf (Sufism) and walks on the Chisti path. Taniya really started using the power of Jungian Pyschology and Mystical Islam when she started her Online Coaching and Consultancy Business in 2018 and discovered she was a powerful healer. When she discovered Shadow Alchemy in 2019, she started developing this modality into Muslim Alchemy in 2020. She now brands herself as the Muslim Alchemist because she is constantly integrating her knowledge of the Quran and Bible with her vast Social Work experience and her extensive ability of applying Psycho-dynamic, therapeutic techniques to organisational settings, team dynamics and when working with individuals and groups. This has both Online and Offline. Taniya uses skillfully her understanding of the Shadow, that Jung constantly talked about and her Mystical Training plus her experience in inter-faith dialogue since 2003, to help individuals and groups become conscious of what they previously were unconscious of leading to rapid success in their Business, Health and Relationships. Taniya has a great skill in being able to see the blind spots in others and in untanging energetic knots (a term she uses for Shadow) to promote healing from mental and physical disease. She uses her vast expertise and skills to help her Online Clients to get rid of decades of anxiety causing insomnia, depression and suicidal thoughts and marital problems. Clients usually are healed in a short amount of time never needing to invest in Therapy again. She really is the Muslim Alchemist as she turns the shitty experience of clients into golden experiences where they manifest upgraded, wealth, health and relationships all at the same time. Taniya got married in 1995 and has three sons born in 1996, 2001 and 2003 and lives in Surrey, England and when she is not developing Muslim Alchemy, she loves to spend time with her family and write fiction stories, songs and poems. She speaks fluent English and Urdu and basic German and French and is learning Arabic and Hebrew.


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