Introduction

There are two inevitables in life, death and taxes. I recently submitted my tax return to my accountant and a week later my husband’s uncle died.

Death gives perspective!

Death really gets you to see your life in a certain way.It got me thinking.How we take ages to make a decision. How we delay being with our friends and family, I mean really be with them because we are afraid of being vulnerable.

My husband’s uncle was very sick for several months and it was a relief to see him not be in pain but he also had a very hard life and in some ways made it hard for himself. He was not good at asking for help but was a VERY beautiful soul and never had a bad word to say about anyone else. He never bad-mouthed anyone even those that wronged him. And so when he passed away, his family was there to bury him. There were not hundreds of family members but the ones who loved him were present by his grave and also online.

It got me thinking that is all we leave behind, how we made others feel. If we made them laugh, smile or cringe. I really don’t want anyone to cringe when they think of me. I sincerely hope that individuals smile when they think of me now I am alive and when I die. However at the same time, I know I am not perfect and I probably have hurt individuals and made others angry at various points in my life. I sincerely hope these individuals forgive me during my life or after I die.

Letting go of control

Yes I pay my taxes that I control but death I can’t control.

Death comes when it comes and I can’t control what others think too.

Yet we spend most of our lives worrying about what others think.

The Shadows that High Performing LEADERS need to be aware of.

There are shadows that all human beings are affected by and we actually have within our psyche that until now we needed to help us survive. We still need them but sometimes when we want to thrive, our minds perceive the actions we are going to take as a threat to our survival. For instance the Prostitute Shadow, serves a purpose because this DESIRE to obtain the approval of others comes from when we needed the tribe to survive. This fear of what others think if we did this or that comes from a time when what the tribe thought really mattered. But we don’t live in tribes and in the 21st Century it doesn’t mean a damn thing what others think. Yet this survival instinct still ruled us. And as visionary entrepreneurs, it is only when we stop worrying what others think that most entrepreneurs start making money. Otherwise most make some money but not a ton of it.

There is also our relationship with money and this is formed interestingly in  our childhood. Our relationship with money is a deeply psychological one. I didn’t know how deep it was until I became an entrepreneur.

Now for some making money is very easy and effortless. Not for me. I  didn’t come from a business background. I have been a social worker for over 33 years of my life. Serving and helping others is effortless and easy for me. However selling is not. And I also encountered this fake generosity from those Big names in the Coaching industry. I copied this fake generosity. When I say fake I mean it. because it looks authentic on the outside but usually not in all cases but usually there’s a hidden agenda.

Methods are not given away. A taste of the method is imparted. You give the method but only describe it but don’t explain how to implement it.

I copied these fake generosity strategies to win the hearts and minds of my online audience. However I only secured a few clients from these strategies. I wanted so much the approval of the public, the market that I would give so much my time for free.  The Prostitute Shadow ran the show and reflecting back, it took me some years to overcome my fear of what others think. I think it was in September 2022 that I started publicly advertising online that I offer consultations. So from 2018 to 2022, I hid the fact that I was offering consultations publicly.

What prompted me to start offering consultations publicly?

How did I transform this shadow to become the Lover of my business and the lover of my clients offering them a service they are looking for?

That is another story, I will tell another time.

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Did You Love This Article?

Did it really resonate with you? I have a feeling it did because you finally found someone who understands you—someone who can see through the lies you’ve been telling yourself for days, weeks, months, years, or even decades.

Acknowledging Our Lies

It’s okay. I told myself lies for decades until I woke up to my workaholism and personal development addiction back in August 2017. In our society, work and personal development are idolized, while drug addiction, alcohol addiction, and sex addiction are viewed as obvious villains. Yet, working is often celebrated in the 21st century, and self-improvement has become a multi-billion dollar industry.

The Limits of Self-Help

However, self-help can only assist you to a certain extent. While it’s important to spend time reflecting and sitting in silence, we are not islands. We are social beings, living in communities—both offline and online.

Many religious and spiritual traditions, some centuries old, teach that you have all the answers within you if you only look deep enough. This is contrary to the New Age Spirituality movement, which often suggests that you need to do certain things to heal. Most religious traditions teach that we come into the world whole and complete, but sadly, we forget this. That’s why it’s crucial to unlearn what we’ve been taught and much of what we see online and in modern psychology.

The Importance of Reflective Practice

Unlearning requires investing in a reflective space with a professional or a set of professionals. In social work and therapy circles, this is common practice and is known as reflective practice or supervision. While many professionals engage in this to understand their clients, I have found that many do not do this for themselves. This applies to innovative change-makers, visionary entrepreneurs, high-performing leaders, and high achievers, who often hire professional help for their teams, families, and pets but neglect their own needs.

In today’s world, where information overload is common and scams are on the rise, discerning who to hire for your personal growth takes time. As a leader, I understand that you need to carefully select a consultant, coach, healer, or therapist who is not only competent but also highly skilled.

The Quest for Transformation

Honestly, I know that what matters to you isn’t just my identity or qualifications, but how quickly I can facilitate your transformation from point A to point B. And you want that transformation yesterday, am I correct?

While I can’t facilitate it overnight, I can certainly do it faster than my competitors.

– What takes others minutes takes me seconds.
– What takes others hours takes me minutes.
– What takes others days takes me hours.
– What takes others weeks takes me days.
– What takes others months takes me weeks.
– What takes others years takes me months.
– What takes others decades takes me years.

The Muslim Alchemist

I brand myself as The Muslim Alchemist, not out of arrogance or because it sounds cool, but because, as one of my coaches pointed out, I truly embody this title. With over thirty years of experience as a practicing social worker in London, United Kingdom, I have learned how to use limited resources to provide opportunity and hope. Even when faced with challenging situations, I have witnessed my clients transform their lives for the better.

By the way, alchemy is the process of transforming base metals into gold. It comes from the Arabic word “Al Chemy.” The ancient Arabs discovered this practice from the Egyptians, who found ways to turn base metals into gold. From alchemy, chemistry and other sciences emerged. Social workers are modern-day alchemists, and through my extensive experience with countless individuals—children, teenagers, parents, and professionals—I have seen many turn their struggles into success.

Personal Experience Matters

My lived experience as a parent of three sons, including one diagnosed with Developmental Language Disorder in 2013, adds depth to my understanding of being a parent and working with children and young people with special education needs. You can trust that I empathize with your struggles and have the insight you seek.

Moreover, I have been married for three decades. You know from your own experiences that long-term relationships come with their challenges, both good and bad. This extensive experience, combined with my knowledge of the human condition, offers you immense wisdom to tap into.

A Non-Judgmental Space

Having studied Islam, Judaism, and Christianity with various religious leaders since 1993, I provide a non-judgmental service rooted in traditional religious and spiritual wisdom.

I offer you **THE REFLECTIVE SPACE** in various forms. No matter how you choose to enter this space, the typical results are profound, rapid, and lasting transformations in health, wealth, or relationships. Many clients have embarked on this reflective journey since I started my business in 2018.

Diverse Transformational Journeys

Some clients, like Zahra*, have completed the personal alchemy journey. Others, like Liz*, have undertaken both personal and identity alchemy journeys. Some have explored all three journeys—personal, identity, and practical—with clients like Asma*.

What use is an adventure if it doesn’t equip you with practical skills for everyday life? Many personal development programs foster dependence on a coach or therapist, but I don’t believe in that model. Some of my clients have rehired me, but usually for entirely different challenges.

To complete the adventure—one that delves into your life and business in depth—there is the emotional alchemy journey. Transmuting repressed feelings requires confronting painful thoughts and emotions. This process demands skill and years of experience, especially if you have buried these feelings deep within. Doing this alongside someone who understands emotional pain can be incredibly liberating and nurturing.

Finding Peace in Vulnerability

I know from personal experience how difficult it can be to face emotional pain. For most of my life, I avoided feeling my own pain, immersing myself in work and family responsibilities until I slowed down in August 2017. The emotional alchemy journey is the hardest path to walk, especially if you’ve numbed your feelings with work and success.

Investing in a professional who understands that there comes a time when you can no longer carry the weight alone can feel incredibly peaceful. It’s like finding a friend who truly understands.

Building a Friendship Takes Time

However, I recognize that building a friendship takes time, and it cannot be established through a single article. I invite you to take a moment out of your busy life to join my Telegram community, where I share videos, audios, and articles, and engage in discussions about the latest insights.

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Remember, transformation is possible, but traveling the road less traveled on your own takes a long time. You don’t have to go it alone now that you are awake and seeking a fulfilled life. The journey takes far less time when you have a friend to accompany you.

If you’re like me and want your transformation yesterday but are unsure which of my services is best for you, I encourage you to book a **FREE 15-minute consultation** using the link below:

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*Names marked with an asterisk are fictional to protect the identity of real individuals who wish to remain anonymous. I offer a private and confidential service, especially for clients who are well-known in their own communities or industries.

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